Understanding & Addressing Stealing in Children and Teens
Compassionate Guidance from Licensed Child & Teen Therapists at The Counseling Corner Since 1998
When a child or teenager steals, it’s natural for parents to feel concerned, confused, or even alarmed. You might wonder: Why did this happen? Is my child heading down the wrong path? But while stealing is a serious behavior, it doesn’t automatically mean your child is a "bad kid"—and with the right support, it can become a powerful opportunity for growth.
Why Children and Teens Steal
Young children (especially under age 5) may take items simply because they don't yet understand the concept of ownership. This is a normal part of early development. Parents can gently teach these lessons through clear boundaries, consistent guidance, and strong role modeling. Kids learn best not just from what we say, but from what we do—so honesty starts at home.
As children grow older, the reasons behind stealing often become more complex:
A teen may steal to fit in with peers, appear brave, or gain social status
A child might steal out of jealousy, especially if a sibling receives more attention or gifts
Others may take items as a way of expressing unmet emotional needs, anger, or even a desire for connection
In some cases, stealing reflects a fear of dependency or a belief that “no one will provide for me, so I’ll take what I need”
What Parents Can Do
If your child has stolen something, how you respond can shape their learning and recovery. Here are key steps recommended by child therapists:
Calmly and clearly explain that stealing is wrong
Help your child return the item or make amends
Ensure they don’t benefit from the stolen item in any way
Avoid harsh labeling, lectures, or predictions about their future
Reaffirm your family’s values—and your belief in your child’s ability to grow
Once the mistake has been repaired, allow your child a clean slate. Shaming or repeatedly bringing it up may cause more harm than good.
When Stealing Signals Something Deeper
If stealing becomes a pattern—or is accompanied by lying, anger, isolation, or defiance—it may point to deeper emotional struggles. Children who repeatedly steal may have difficulty trusting others, forming healthy relationships, or managing feelings like shame, insecurity, or anxiety.
This is where our professional support at The Counseling Corner can make all the difference.
How We Help – Treatment Options at The Counseling Corner
Our licensed therapists and coaches offer customized support through:
Child Therapy & Play Therapy – Developmentally appropriate support for young children
Teen Counseling – Addressing peer pressure, self-worth, and emotional regulation
Individual Therapy – Helping children, teens, and young adults explore deeper struggles and build resilience
Family Therapy – Strengthening communication, structure, and emotional connection
Life Coaching – Offering mindset tools and accountability for growth-focused families
Parent Coaching - Offering assistance for parents of a child or teenager who has been stealing
Our treatment plans are compassionate, age-appropriate, and tailored to your child’s needs and your family’s values. We focus on building empathy, accountability, trust, and long-term emotional wellness.
Take the First Step Today
Stealing doesn’t define your child—but how you respond can shape their future. With support, honesty, and the right tools, healing and change are absolutely possible.
📞 Call The Counseling Corner at 407-843-4968
📧 Email: info@counselingcorner.net
📍 Visit us at our main office in Orlando or our satellite offices in Clermont, or Orange City/Deland/Sanford/Deltona/Debary, or connect with us through virtual therapy anywhere in Florida
Let’s work together to help your child grow with character, courage, and confidence.