Trichotillomania and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors in Children

(BFRB)

✋ Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRB) Therapy for Children in Orlando

Gentle, Effective Support for Hair Pulling, Skin Picking, Nail Biting & More

If your child is struggling with hair pulling, skin picking, or chronic nail biting, you're not alone—and neither are they. These Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRBs) can leave children feeling confused, ashamed, and out of control—and leave parents feeling helpless.

At The Counseling Corner, we provide compassionate, developmentally appropriate therapy for children with BFRBs. We help kids understand their behaviors, reduce urges, and build healthier emotional coping skills—all in a space where they feel safe, understood, and never judged.

🧠 What Are BFRBs?

Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors are self-soothing actions that a child may feel compelled to repeat, often to manage internal distress like anxiety, boredom, fear, or overwhelm. These are not bad habits—they’re coping mechanisms tied to emotional regulation challenges.

Common BFRBs in Children:

  • Trichotillomania: Repeated pulling of hair from the scalp, eyelashes, or eyebrows

  • Dermatillomania (Excoriation Disorder): Frequent skin picking, sometimes to the point of scabs or sores

  • Onychophagia: Chronic nail biting or nail skin chewing

  • Lip or Cheek Biting: Repetitive self-grooming behaviors that can cause harm

These behaviors can lead to physical discomfort, infections, scarring, social withdrawal, and intense emotional distress—especially as children begin to notice others' reactions or struggle to stop on their own.

🧒 What BFRBs Look Like in Children

Children may:

  • Pull or pick during quiet times, such as reading or bedtime

  • Create rituals or routines around their behaviors

  • Feel ashamed or try to hide evidence of their actions (hair, scabs, fingernails)

  • Become anxious before school or social events

  • Feel “stuck” in the behavior, even if they desperately want to stop

  • Say things like: “I don’t know why I do it” or “I just can’t stop”

These behaviors are often misunderstood—and children may feel guilt, frustration, or fear about what’s happening to them.

💡 What Parents Should Know

1. This is not your fault—and it’s not theirs.
BFRBs are not a sign of weakness, parenting failure, or a behavioral problem. They're linked to emotional regulation, anxiety, sensory needs, and neurological wiring.

2. You can’t “discipline” this away.
Punishment or pressure to stop often increases shame and makes the behavior worse. The key is gentle awareness, skill-building, and compassion.

3. Your child may not fully understand why they do it.
Kids often describe it as “automatic” or “something I do when I don’t even notice.” Therapy helps build awareness and understanding.

4. Early intervention is powerful.
The earlier we support a child’s emotional regulation and self-esteem, the better we can reduce the long-term impact of BFRBs.

5. You are part of the healing process.
We’ll coach you on how to support your child without reinforcing the behavior, and how to respond with empathy instead of fear.

🛠️ How We Treat BFRBs at The Counseling Corner

We use evidence-based, child-friendly approaches that help children manage their urges, understand their emotions, and grow more confident in their ability to choose new behaviors.

Our child BFRB therapy includes:

  • CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) – Helps kids identify triggers and challenge anxious or perfectionistic thoughts

  • Habit Reversal Training (HRT) – Teaches awareness and introduces healthier, competing responses

  • Mindfulness & ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) – Builds tolerance of uncomfortable feelings without acting on them

  • TF-CBT (for trauma-related BFRBs) – Gently addresses deeper emotional wounds tied to the behavior

  • Play & Expressive Therapies – Allows children to explore body image, control, and self-worth through play, art, and metaphor

  • Parent Coaching & Family Therapy – Guides caregivers in supporting progress without judgment or over-accommodation

💬 A Parent’s Reflection

"I used to think she was doing it for attention. Once I understood it was her brain’s way of coping, I stopped trying to control the behavior—and started learning how to support her. The difference in her confidence is incredible."
— Parent of a 9-year-old with Trichotillomania

👩‍⚕️ Our BFRB Specialist

The Counseling Corner has an expert in treating Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRBs) including Trichotillomania, Dermatillomania (Excoriation Disorder), Onychophagia and Lip or cheek biting ready to help you today:T

Michelle Buchanan, LMHC, LMFT
Michelle specializes in treating BFRBs in children, teens, and families using a warm, affirming, and practical approach.

📞 Take the First Step Toward Healing

Your child deserves to feel safe in their own body—and you deserve a plan that brings clarity, relief, and real change.

📞Call The Counseling Corner at 407-843-4968 to schedule an EMDR consultation for your child today.
📧 info@counselingcorner.net
🌐 www.counselingcorner.net
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FAQs

  • Children often engage in body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs) like hair pulling or skin picking in response to emotional distress, anxiety, boredom, or sensory overwhelm. These actions can feel soothing or help them regulate big feelings when they don’t yet have the words or skills to express them. It's not a sign of bad behavior—it’s a cry for help that needs gentle, skilled support. At Counseling Corner, we help children understand their feelings and build healthy coping strategies.

  • No, BFRBs are not about attention-seeking or disobedience. Most children are confused or even distressed by their own behavior and may go to great lengths to hide it. These behaviors are involuntary and often happen without full awareness. Our counselors work closely with children to explore the underlying causes and help them gain control in a safe, encouraging environment.

  • Warning signs include missing patches of hair, open wounds from picking, frequent nail or lip biting, or your child withdrawing socially or avoiding school due to shame or anxiety. If the behavior is persistent, causing physical harm, or affecting your child’s emotional well-being or self-esteem, it’s time to seek professional support. Early intervention is key—therapy can help your child regain confidence and reduce the impact of the behavior before it worsens. At Counseling Corner, we specialize in supporting children with gentle, age-appropriate care.

  • Start by offering understanding and reassurance rather than punishment or pressure to “just stop.” Keep an open line of communication and observe when the behavior tends to occur—stressful moments, boredom, or fatigue may be triggers. In therapy, we guide parents with tools and education so they can respond effectively and support lasting progress at home. You’re not in this alone—our therapists partner with you every step of the way.